Most people break up and never hear from each other again. It’s just how most modern relationships work. Very rarely do ex-partners stay in touch, let alone acknowledge the impact that they had on each other. But the truth is, romantic relationships are incredibly important. Romantic partners help shape who you are, and so it’s a little strange that we usually lose touch with those important people.
One guy is changing all that. He texted his ex to let her know how grateful he is for their past relationship – and he did it the day before his wedding to another woman. A lot of people are really inspired by the thank you-text messages one woman got from her ex.
Alexsa Sanchez Aguilar (@_xolexc on Twitter) tweeted about some surprising texts she received. At first, she didn’t even recognize the phone number, presumably because so much time had passed since she and her ex last spoke.
Once Aguilar realized it was her ex-boyfriend texting her, she asked him how he was. His response left her “speechless.”
He told her that was getting married the next day, and he wanted to thank her “for being my first love.”
He went on to say:
“Thank you for being my first love. Thank you for always encouraging me, thank you for keeping me out of trouble, thank you for the times you took care of me when I was sick, and depressed.”
Aguilar’s ex not only thanked her for all the time she spent helping him, but she also made sure to wish her the best and compliment her as well:
“The way your heart is made it’s amazing. To the man who is lucky enough to have you as their wife I hope he treats you with care, I hope he knows who he has in front o f him, I hope he shows you love and loyalty every day.”
Aguilar was so touched by the text exchange, she tweeted the screenshots.
i’m speechless pic.twitter.com/i2EAiER60z
— ???????????? ? (@_xolexc) July 20, 2019
In a comment to Tank’s Good News, Aguilar said that she’s taken an important lesson away from this experience:
“Regardless of everything you should have respect towards someone you have a strong history with.”
Aguilar echoed that same sentiment in her response to her ex. She wrote to him:
“I’m happy you found the woman you want forever with. I’m happy you’re happy.”
Some of the reactions to the exchange show that a lot of people don’t fully understand it.
Idk man if I was the new girl I’d be a little weirded out that you wanted to send a paragraph to ur ex girlfriend & express your feelings.. in my opinion, that’s weird.
— bratty at it’s finest (@masonrain_) July 20, 2019
This isn’t beautiful to me. BUT that’s me. I interpreted “even though we were both kids, you taught me how to go love someone else. I wasn’t perfect for you and now I’m perfect for another person. Thank you for upgrading me”. But I understand you guy’s background together so….
— theb**chinblue (@lolowiththefro) July 20, 2019
I would die if I molded a man to be the perfect husband for another woman
— Lo???? (@loajah) July 20, 2019
But, most of the replies show that people are just as touched by this exchange as Aguilar is.
This has to be the most beautiful thing Ive read. Shout out to both of y’all for being such damn good people.
— Nickolas Rey Tamez (@nickolas_rey) July 20, 2019
Its really disappointing that so many women view this in such a selfish way, “I would be pissed if I made another man marriage material for another girl.” Really? Why not be proud that you had this strong of an impact on someone. That u left someone better off than when you met.
— ????? (@MisfitsFreak) July 21, 2019
m a t u r i t y pic.twitter.com/hwI5MgLRqe
— jossy ???? (@josselynxoo) July 20, 2019
Imagine having an ex this mature ????
— emily (@okk_emi) July 20, 2019
I respect messages like this when they’re genuine because this is something I do when I’m feelin some type of way and need to let it out ??
— Jase (@jcag64) July 20, 2019
— Josiah (@josiahozunv) July 20, 2019
That is so sweet. I am glad you both have that kind of a relationship where you can talk like this and I am so glad he’s this mature.
— Mugdha Redkar (@LazynLameNerd) July 20, 2019
Some people are wondering why this couple didn’t work out in the first place, and Aguilar explained that they were very young but went through some emotionally trying times together.
we were extremely young. we lost our bestfriend to suicide which is why we have so much respect towards eachother.
— ???????????? ? (@_xolexc) July 20, 2019
Aguilar seems to have a lot of peace about the situation, as she expressed in one final tweet about it.
& it’s not about me “building someone for somebody else”. i helped him get out of a rough path, i was obviously meant to be apart of his life but that doesn’t mean i was meant to be his wife nor does it mean that he will cheat on his wife. people fall out of love, ITS LIFE.
— ???????????? ? (@_xolexc) July 22, 2019
People come in and out of our lives all the time, so Aguilar’s way of thinking about her past relationship is really mature. Maybe all relationships would be better if all ex-partners could communicate the way these two do.