Therapy is a great way to learn how to manage your emotions, break toxic cycles, cope with anxiety, and generally lead a more happy, mentally healthy life. Unfortunately, therapy is also very expensive and seeking out therapy is a big step that not everyone is ready (or able) to take. Thankfully, those who have gotten the most from therapy know how valuable it is, and some are happy to pay it forward. While someone else’s therapy obviously isn’t tailored to everyone’s life, these little nuggets of wisdom are universal enough that everyone can get some use out of them.
Author Caroline Moss asked her followers for the best piece of advice they got from therapy—something that stuck with them and genuinely helped them—and boy did they deliver.
If you go to therapy quote tweet this with the best thing you learned at therapy that way everyone else can get free therapy
— Caroline Moss (@CarolineMoss) November 24, 2019
Advice flowed in from people who have benefitted from therapy and were happy to share what they learned with others. Here are some of the best pieces of free therapy from the therapy patients of Twitter:
My therapist asked me "whose voice do you hear when you judge yourself? "
Finding this answer was the most freeing feeling. https://t.co/OjkcvFzoMT
— TheCurvyFashionista (@MarieDenee) November 26, 2019
Our self-destructive behaviors are almost always about control: a way of proving to ourselves that we're still steering the ship of the self, even if the waters around us are turbulent and unpredictable https://t.co/xxIpPvTQ3Q
— Helen Rosner (@hels) November 25, 2019
You can empathize with someone without making it your responsibility to change how they feel. https://t.co/1bFQwUKPXD
— Eric Sprankle, PsyD (@DrSprankle) November 25, 2019
if you've been in a shipwreck you might have held on to a plank of wood to stay afloat but to climb aboard the rescue ship you need to let go of the plank of wood https://t.co/98jjvuZY13
— rosianna✨ (@RosiannaRojas) November 25, 2019
– saying "no" can be an act of love
– shame is an obstacle to growth https://t.co/bp6b76v77T
— Carlos Maza (@gaywonk) November 25, 2019
you should tell your therapist when a technique they're trying doesn't do anything for you instead of playing along so you don't hurt their feelings. https://t.co/Rxx7uNtfVN
— hannah moskowitz (buy SICK KIDS IN LOVE!) (@hannahmosk) November 25, 2019
Your brain literally can't do as much when you're grieving/burned out/emotionally overloaded, and forcing it to try is like driving on flat tires: maybe short term OK to get to the shop, but long-term it will ruin your rims. https://t.co/4wEA2dxWfr
— Renée Stephen (@ReneeStephen) November 25, 2019
Feelings aren't "good" or "bad." They're just feelings. Also a really good visualization for anxious thoughts is to imagine them as the crawl on a news channel. You're not ignoring them, you're just not letting them take up the whole screen. https://t.co/MBuqnpvNcq
— Kat Kinsman (@kittenwithawhip) November 25, 2019
When you feel overwhelmed, make a side by side list of things you can control and things you can't control.
rip off the "cant control" part and let it go.
You're giving too much of your emotional energy to what you can't control that you neglect what you can. Save your energy https://t.co/8tLIQLqjTQ
— 𝕕𝕖𝕧𝕒𝕟𝕟 (@LadyDevann) November 25, 2019
when I get into a negative self-talk spiral, to imagine how I'd react if anyone said about a friend the things I say about myself.
also a metaphor about goals where if you get off at the wrong stop on the subway, you don't go 'well I just live here now,' you get back on https://t.co/2AvzJ0HRBD
— Memento Whitney (@whitneyarner) November 25, 2019
It's okay to have feelings of conflict, to still feel love for the person who has abused you. You can cut a person off to take care of yourself AND still love them. Loving them doesn't mean allowing them to continue hurting you. https://t.co/qxHG53OOqz
— Marianne Kirby (@TheRotund) November 25, 2019
You can think a thing and not believe in it.
You can feel a thing and not act on it.
You are more than your feelings, more than your thoughts. You are also your values. https://t.co/JMEORP5i2a
— Michelle Allison (@fatnutritionist) November 25, 2019
Feelings don't have to be logical and they aren't mutually exclusive. I can hold two opposing feelings about something at the same time. https://t.co/qb5xAcSSJB
— Briana JC (@WittyPittie) November 26, 2019
Over-intellectualizing your own pain can be harmful. Sometimes it's good to stop analysing and judging your own feelings and instead just feel it. https://t.co/GPuXhPiixX
— Siân Fergusanta 🤶🎄 (@sianfergs) November 26, 2019
Sometimes you realize things you didn't think traumatized you totally did. Other times, you remember how happy the toy aisle in Wal Mart made you https://t.co/HgGcN18JoA
— Harper Liles (@harper_liles) November 26, 2019
you never "lose time" when you're trying to figure out what to do, even if you have to backtrack it means you realized you weren't on the path you wanted and are en route to where you want to be https://t.co/8SlzseqquD
— Windy @ crying over music (@SPEARxWIND) November 27, 2019
You can check out more free therapy responses to her tweet here.