A Different Kind Of Gender Reveal Party: Family Celebrates 17-Year-Old’s Transition

An Ohio family decided to introduce their son to friends and family at a playful and fun gender reveal party.

via Facebook/ Love Gwaltney        

But the event turned out to be no ordinary gender reveal party because although Love Gwaltney, 35, is pregnant with another child, her seventeen-year-old trans-masculine son was the star of the party.

via Facebook/ Love Gwaltney
via Facebook/ Love Gwaltney
via Facebook/ Love Gwaltney

“The first thing we wonder about when we get pregnant…is, is it a boy or girl,” she wrote on Facebook. “We throw parties, we pick out names. And MOST of the time, that works out perfectly fine.”

Boy or girl?..............The first thing we wonder about when we get pregnant (after all the holy crap! I'...

Posted by Love Gwaltney on Saturday, July 11, 2020

“But sometimes, we force these expected characteristics based off biological sex, and *gasp* we’ve gotten it wrong,” the post continues.

“We wanted to announce that we got it wrong 17 years ago when we told the world we were having a little girl, and named that child McKenzie.

“So, we’d like to introduce you to our SON: Grey. He’s much like any other 17-year-old nerdy boy, stays up way too late gaming, hates showering, and eats too much junk food. We will be referring to Grey with he/him pronouns from here on out, but he told us to tell you that he also doesn’t mind if you use they/them.”

via Facebook/ Love Gwaltney

It’s obvious from the pictures that the party was a total success.

Gwaltney’s post mentioned that the balloons Grey jumped out of the box with were chosen to represent colors from the non-binary pride flag, and the layers of the cake served match those that represent transgender bodies.

via Facebook/ Love Gwaltney

According to The Huffington Post, Grey came out to his mother and stepdad a few months ago.

Gwaltney, who is currently pregnant, got the idea to use a gender reveal party to introduce her son to friends and family to “add some levity” and ease Grey’s nervousness.

“I’m in a few pregnancy groups and keep seeing gender reveals,” she said. “I knew this would be a fun tongue-in-cheek way to announce.”

via Facebook/ Love Gwaltney

Once Grey got excited about the idea for the party, Gwaltney knew it was the right thing to do.

“The more we talked about it the more excited he got,” Gwaltney told TODAY Parents.

She said Gray was nervous about telling his grandmother and certain other family members, but Gwaltney told him, “…it’s all going to be OK. You’ve got this.”

And the family “took it really well.” Gwaltney said they promised to “do their best” to use the right pronouns.

via Facebook/ Love Gwaltney

Since their family and friends have found out about Grey’s transition, Gwaltney’s Facebook post has gone viral and has attracted an outpouring of support and connection with the trans community and its allies.

“I’ve gotten so many [messages] from people in the trans community about how they wish they had a parent that was as accepting and loving as me,” Gwaltney said. “Apparently I’m doing it right because people are telling me, ‘You are the mom that everyone needs.”

One social media user wrote, “What a beautiful, loving, happy family! Congrats to you all, especially Grey, on being your real selves and loving one another.”

via Facebook/ Love Gwaltney

The gender reveal party is all about Grey, and we wish him all the best on his journey, but Gwaltney has an important messages for other parents of trans and non-binary kids.

“You’re not losing a daughter or a son, they’re just evolving into the best version of themselves,” she said. “My husband and I have a saying: We’d rather support our kids no matter what, and they later change their mind, than to not support them, and have to spend the rest of our lives knowing we failed them.”

Susan LaMarca

Written by Susan LaMarca