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This 51-Year-Old “Surrograndma” Is Carrying Her Daughter’s Baby Because She Can’t

A woman named Julie Loving, 51, is serving as the gestational carrier for her daughter and her son-in-law’s child. After years of not being able to get pregnant due to infertility, Breanna Lockwood’s mom gave her the best gift in offering to be a “surrograndma.” 

Loving tells TODAY Parents, “It’s been a textbook pregnancy. Everything’s been perfect.”

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⁣ NO BUMP BUT SO PUMPED⁣⁣ Love this t-shirt i found on etsy!⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Recently we completed a labor and delivery tour at one of our local hospitals! The nurses were sooo nice and super excited for us! It really made us feel good. I was in a puddle of tears (imagine that) with my OBGYN a few months back because with the virus situation, I didn’t think my husband would be able to come to the hospital for the birth. Typically for births only one support person is allowed, but since surrogacy is a unique situation, we both will be able to be in for the delivery! This was such a huge relief.. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ The nurses answered all our questions and we discussed a “birth plan”. I put that in quotes and say it lightly because we don’t have any expectations and plan to just go with the flow. With the exception of mom saying, “Epidural please ☝🏻“. Haha and I absolutely agree! Whew!⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ We talked about who the baby would go to first, and we’ve always discussed she will go straight to me. Talking about how that will look in the delivery room had me and my mamas eyes swelling up a bit. We are sometimes so alike it’s scary. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Fall weather started to creep into the midwest this week! Seeing pumpkins in the stores really starts to let me know November is right around the corner!⁣⁣ #surrogacyjourney #surrogategrandma #ivfjourney #surrogacyislove #mommyinfluencer #instagood #momsofinstagram #infertilityawareness #infertilitysupport #surrogacyannouncement #pregnancyjourney #ivfpregnancy #surrogatepregnancy

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Lockwood and her husband Aaron have not been able to get pregnant for years. The couple went suffered through an ectopic pregnancy, four failed embryo transfers and two miscarriages. They were running out of options, so they had to consider a person with a uterus who is able to carry and deliver someone else’s baby – or a gestational carrier.

Using a gestational carrier is pretty pricey. Lockwood’s fertility specialist, Dr. Brian Kaplan said, “Most Americans cannot afford a gestational carrier. “It’s over $100,000.” When Lockwood spoke to her mom about it, her mom offered to carry her baby. Lockwood refused.

“I knew she wanted to be helpful, but I just kept kind of saying no,” Lockwood said.

Her mom took her husband’s place at a fertility appointment with Dr. Kaplan, as he wasn’t able to go, her daughter urged her not to say anything about wanting to be a carrier. But, as the appointment was about to be over, Loving told Kaplan of her wish to carry her daughter’s baby.

Dr. Kaplan was vocal about his concern with someone her age carrying a baby, but he said it’s more about physical health rather than the age most of the time. “Normally a gestational carrier should be under 40 years, but in medicine you have to look at an individual and personalize it,” he said.

Kaplan then spoke to his colleagues to assess the risks involved and agreed to do some testing.

“We made her go through all these hoops to make sure she was as healthy as possible (and) as educated as possible about the risks involved,” he said, “We took it very seriously. Each of the physicians that saw her agreed this was unique. This is not something we would do regularly or advise people to do. This was absolutely exceptional.”

Loving was eventually given the green light and is currently 35 weeks along. 

Lockwood said, “I would say 90% of the responses and feedback I get are fantastic and wonderful, but there are that 10% of internet trolls that have nasty things to say about whatever they can online. I think a lot of it comes from lack of education where they don’t understand IVF or what a surrogate is, or they think this baby is my sister.”

But either way, she’s excited about welcoming her bundle of joy. “I’m so ready. We’re so lucky and fortunate that this was able to happen for us.”

Moises Mendez II

Written by Moises Mendez II